Both people should work so no one feels they are being taken for granted. It's not easy keeping everything' up and in real love that should be shared ...never let one people feel all the responsibility .As you age you want to know the person is capable of the hard stuff that's gonna happen to us and not just fun and games .. Work is a character thing too and shows the other you care to share that with them..you share all the effort in real love ..their efforts shouldn't be taken for granted when they have all the stress to keep it all going ..
You can never be your best self around someone u don't trust either for whatever reason..and that's real too