Quote Of The Moment:
The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. We misunderstand.......we take it personally.........then we react by sending emotional poison with our word. This creates a whole big drama for nothing. ~~~~Unknown
Lately I have been reading a certain chatters profile and have noticed a very strong presence of denial running throughout the diatribe on the profile.
Now it strikes me that when someone goes to great lengths to tell you they are a private person, repeating themself many times, it gives the reader pause to ponder why is this person so vehemently defending their privacy. We all to some degree value and guard our privacy, nobody but the foolish would hand out too much information, so I have to question just why is this particular chatter so vocal about preserving their identity? Why is there seemingly a white knuckled death grip on their privacy? Just what is it they have to hide? The ironclad privacy surrounding this chatter is in my opinion just another means to control the people whom they are decieving. Perhaps they have been using fake pics, and fake information and are afraid of being found out? In my opinion, the anonymity the internet provides, should also allow for a greater transparency where chatters can be anyone they want to portray, they should also be able to amplify their attributes and minimise their flaws, and not as this chatter is doing by completely disguising their true self. This is my speculation based on my observations of this chatter anyway, there will be a deception going on, a sleight of hand like a magician that screams catfish.
As you read further into this same chatters profile, they mention that only the closest of friends will ever get to learn their true self. Which is a very clever manipulation of making the so called close friend feel extra extra special, so darn special that they have been included *nay* selected to become a part of the enclave only the elite chosen few may see into. Do you see where this is going? This chatter has elevated themself to the position of excellence, bestowing friendship sparingly to an elite group that can then enter their private life. Whoever falls for this bullshit is a fool, you are only being drawn in *close* as a means to control the deception. You will be made to feel so special, part of such a wonderful group, who in all likelihood is so secret that others in this same group won't even know they are in this group, furthermore, those involved wouldn't even dare to question or share any tidbits of information being shared anyway. This is called triangulation, keeping people circling providing cover and credibility who will be totally unaware of any other players existence and this further bolsters the deception from within.
My final observation is this, if rumors and gossip are the lingua franca of chatrooms, then this chatter certainly has a few stories swirling around them. Why else would they need to deny the existence of them, then feign to laugh at them. If rumors and innuendo isn't even a factor, why acknowledge them at all? As a cynical chatter whenever I read that the chatter is laughing about these rumors, it's a dead cert that someone has come forward or has threaatened to expose the chatter and this has prompted an *ALL OUT DENIAL*. Now coupled with some pithy deflecting usually the denial will contain some form of *just get a life* instruction to the invisible rumor mill OR cries of *creepy stalker* This activity is called the double blind and if employed at all, seldom works to the chatters advantage, it highlights their feeble attempts at denial.
I'm sure there are many more of these fakes out there, so lets be vigillant guys and gals, lest we too become one of those who are taken in because we didnt use critical thinking.
... maybe its a case of too many people trying to put their noses into someone's business and when they don't get the answers they seek the stir up the rumor mill 
